1 士梅專(zhuān)欄難忘的年華(doc)
1. Remembering the Ages This weekend, I volunteered1 to give my friend, Liza, a hand2 with her fiance's 30th birthday gift. Liza wanted to surprise James with a 30-minute video biography3 that captured4 the highlights5 of his life. So last week, she called his parents in New York to ask for pictures from James' childhood.Two days later, a box arrived on Liza's doorstep. As Liza and I pored over6 these photos, putting them in chronological7 order, it dawned on8 me how life-defining birthdays are. They not only mark the day we came into this world but also serve as signposts9 for important milestones in life.In America, the following birthdays are especially meaningful: 　　ONE Whether we remember it or not, most of us had a very happy one-year- old birthday, at least our parents and family did. Our first birthday is an occasion for our parents and loved ones to celebrate and tell the world that they've had us for one whole year. Hooray! 　　SIXTEEN Sweet Sixteen, Sweet Sixteen? What's so sweet about this birthday? Perhaps because sixteen marks our coming of age, which is the interim10 period between childhood and adulthood. It's a very brief and unique stage in our lives. A time when we are becoming an adult, yet still haven't lost our childhood innocence. The best of both worlds. Actually Sweet Sixteen applies more often to girls' 16th birthdays than to boys'. At that age, a girl is on the verge of becoming a woman. Picture a flower bud about to bloom, opening its face to the world for the first time. There's a sense of beauty and sweetness to this transition. Our 16th birthday is the first day we can get our driver's license. It's the official step toward becoming a mature person. From this day forward, we no longer need our parents to drive us around, take us everywhere. Instead, we just borrow their car. Maybe that's what makes sixteen so sweet to the boys as they eagerly celebrate this newfound autonomy11. Now they can drive without adult supervision! Haa, haa! 　　EIGHTEEN This is the day we become legal adults in the eye of the law. We can now assume full responsibility for all aspects of our lives. We no longer need our parents' consent to go on fieldtrips12, to rent a R- rated13 movie, to have a medical procedure done, to get married, etc. If a teacher has a problem with our grades, he comes directly to us. And if a doctor wants to discuss a medical condition, he speaks only to us. 　　In so many words, we are not dependents any more but independent individuals who take full responsibility for our actions and their consequences. And our parents have become advisors instead of legal guardians. In fact, many Americans frown14 upon those over age eighteen who still expect and rely on their parents to take care of them. Of course, most American parents continue to play very important and active roles in their children's lives even after the children have grown up. The parents pay for college education, help with down payments on houses, and bestow15 wisdom. But the point is, as of eighteen, we are our own person and can no longer hide behind Daddy and Mommy. 　　TWENT-ONE Most Americans celebrate this birthday with excessive partying and drinking. 21 is the legal drinking age in America. In other words, the day we turn 21 is the day we enter a whole new social plane. We can order a glass of wine with our dinner or enjoy a highball16 at a classy cocktail lounge17 without the fear of being charged with underage drinking. In addition, being 21 gives us access to bars, clubs and casinos18. In America, all establishments that serve alcohol require us to show proof of age before entrance is granted or services are rendered. THIRTY The Big Three-O. What's so special about this birthday? In my opinion, 30th birthday is the day of introspection and reflection for many people. We look back at what we've done with our lives so far and decide if we are happy with where we are? Thirty is a critical age. We are not old but we're also not young. In other words, it's not too late for us to do the things that we've always wanted to do, but we should start on them soon because time is flying by. In other words, thirty is the age of many important questions:Do I want to get married?Do I want to have children? Should I marry the woman I met three years ago?Am I happy with my career?Do I have a future in this line of work? Is it too late to change professions?Should I start saving money to buy a house soon? 　　The list goes on. The most pressing issue is knowing what we want in life and working hard toward these goals. As the saying goes, “ It's never too late to start.” But as thirty year-olds, we no longer have too much time to waste. So it's high time to tell ourselves, “ Okay, this is what I want and these are the changes I need to make. Let's get to it because I'm not getting any younger.” 　　Of course, we should never forget the importance of marching to the beat of our own drum. Set our own clock. Don't do things because it's our birthday. Do it because we're ready to take on the responsibility that comes with each milestone. Get the driver's license when we feel confident about piloting a car in heavy traffic. Drink when we know when to stop. Have children because we want to be a parent. Fall in love when we love a person. In life, we are either growing up or growing old. But we can grow as a person either way. So enjoy the birthdays, blow out those candles and make a wish, “ May our next birthday be better than this one!” 難忘的年華 這周末，我自告奮勇幫我朋友莉莎給她未婚夫吉姆趕制30歲生日禮物。莉莎想制作一 部30分鐘的傳記錄像，記載她未婚夫生命中重要的時(shí)刻，給他一個(gè)驚喜。所以她上周就 給他住在紐約的父母打了一個(gè)電話(huà)，索要吉姆童年以來(lái)的照片。兩天后，一個(gè)盒子就遞 到了莉莎的門(mén)口。莉莎和我專(zhuān)心致志地?cái)[弄著這些照片，按年月順序排好，此時(shí)我突然 悟到生日把人的一生分得如此清晰。它們不僅標(biāo)志著我們降臨這個(gè)世界的那天，還起到 了標(biāo)示人生重大里程碑的作用。在美國(guó)，下列生日具有特別意義： 　　周歲不管我們記不記得，我們大都過(guò)了一個(gè)非常高興的周歲生日，至少對(duì)我們的父 母和家人是這樣。我們的周歲生日是父母和親人們的一個(gè)慶祝會(huì)，昭告世人他們擁有我 們已滿(mǎn)一整年了。歡呼吧！ 　　16歲甜蜜的16歲，甜蜜？這個(gè)生日有什么可甜蜜的？可能是因?yàn)?6歲標(biāo)志著我們行 將成年，這是童年和成年之間的過(guò)渡期。它是我們一生中一個(gè)非常短暫而獨(dú)特的階段。 在這期間，我們逐漸成人，但還未失去兒童的天真，正同時(shí)擁有兩個(gè)世界最美好的東西 。 實(shí)際上，“甜蜜的16歲”常常更適用于女孩的16歲生日，而不是男孩。16歲的女孩，正 接近長(zhǎng)成女人。試想，花蕾正要綻放，第一次向這個(gè)世界嶄露面容，這一轉(zhuǎn)換過(guò)程蘊(yùn)含 著美感和甜蜜。我們的16歲生日是我們可以獲得駕照的第一天，這是法律上邁向成人的 一步。從這天起，我們不再需要父母駕車(chē)帶我們開(kāi)來(lái)開(kāi)去到處走了。我們只要借他們的 車(chē)用就行了?；蛟S這是男孩們覺(jué)得16歲如此甜蜜的緣故，因?yàn)樗麄兗迸沃鴳c祝他們這個(gè) 新獲得的自主權(quán)?，F(xiàn)在他們可以無(wú)需大人監(jiān)督而自由開(kāi)車(chē)了。哈哈！ 　　18歲這一天是法定年齡，在法律上我們是成年人了。我們能對(duì)自己生活的各個(gè)方面 負(fù)起全部責(zé)任。我們不再需要父母的同意就可到校外考察旅行，租看有限制等級(jí)的影片 ，辦理醫(yī)療手續(xù)以及結(jié)婚等。如果老師對(duì)我們的成績(jī)不滿(mǎn)，他直接找我們本人。如果大 夫?談一下病情，他也只對(duì)我們自己講。 　　直截了當(dāng)?shù)卣f(shuō)吧，我們不再依賴(lài)別人了，而是要對(duì)自己的行為及其后果負(fù)全部責(zé)任 的獨(dú)立人了。而我們的父母成了顧問(wèn)而不再是法定監(jiān)護(hù)人了。實(shí)際上，許多美國(guó)人對(duì)那 些已滿(mǎn)18歲但仍指望并依賴(lài)自己父母照顧的人是不太喜歡的。當(dāng)然，美國(guó)大多數(shù)家長(zhǎng)甚 至在孩子成人后都繼續(xù)在他們的生活中起著非常重要和積極的作用。家長(zhǎng)幫我們付大學(xué) 學(xué)費(fèi)，付買(mǎi)房的定金，還要提意見(jiàn)出主意。但核心問(wèn)題是：滿(mǎn)了18歲，我們就得自立了 ，不能再躲在爸爸、媽媽的身后了。 　　21歲大多數(shù)美國(guó)人以狂歡縱飲來(lái)慶祝這個(gè)生日，因?yàn)?1歲在美國(guó)是法定的飲酒年齡 。換言之，邁入21歲的那天，我們就進(jìn)入了一個(gè)全新的社會(huì)層面。我們可以在就餐時(shí)來(lái) 杯葡萄酒或在一間高檔的雞尾酒吧里享用高杯酒（摻有蘇打水、姜汁酒的威士忌或白蘭 地），而不用擔(dān)心因不到飲酒年齡而遭指控。此外，滿(mǎn)21歲之后我們就可以進(jìn)出酒吧、 俱樂(lè)部及賭場(chǎng)了。在美國(guó)，所有供應(yīng)酒的地方都會(huì)在允許我們進(jìn)入或提供服務(wù)之前要求 我們出示年齡證明。 30歲30是個(gè)而立之年。這個(gè)生日有什么特別的呢？依我看，30歲生日對(duì)許多人來(lái)說(shuō)都 是反省和深思的時(shí)候。我們回顧這些年來(lái)我們有些什么成就，并判斷對(duì)自己的現(xiàn)狀是否 滿(mǎn)意。30歲是個(gè)關(guān)鍵的年齡。我們不老但也不年輕了。也就是說(shuō)，著手做自己一直想做 的事還為時(shí)未晚，但要抓緊做，時(shí)光不等人。換句話(huà)說(shuō)，30歲是問(wèn)自己許多重大問(wèn)題的 年齡：我想結(jié)婚嗎？我想要孩子嗎？我該娶我3年前認(rèn)識(shí)的那個(gè)女人嗎？我對(duì)自己的工作 滿(mǎn)意嗎？干這一行我有前途嗎？現(xiàn)在改行太晚嗎?我該馬上開(kāi)始攢錢(qián)買(mǎi)房子嗎？ 　　問(wèn)題還將繼續(xù)問(wèn)下去。最緊迫的問(wèn)題就是要明白我們?cè)谏钪邢胍裁矗⑴θ?實(shí)現(xiàn)這些目標(biāo)。正如老話(huà)所說(shuō)，“只要去做從不為晚?！钡珜?duì)30歲的人來(lái)說(shuō)，我們沒(méi)多少 時(shí)光可以虛擲了。所以現(xiàn)在還該對(duì)自己說(shuō)：“好吧，這正是我想要的，而這些是我要做的 改變。讓我們開(kāi)始干吧，時(shí)不我待啊?！?　　當(dāng)然，我們千萬(wàn)別忘了重要的是要按自己的具體情況行事。制定自己的時(shí)間規(guī)劃。 不要因?yàn)槭亲约旱纳斩瞿呈?，而要?zhǔn)備為每個(gè)里程碑的到來(lái)承擔(dān)責(zé)任而做事。當(dāng)我 們感到有信心駕車(chē)于滾滾車(chē)流中時(shí)再去申請(qǐng)駕照；飲酒知道節(jié)制；想做家長(zhǎng)時(shí)再要孩子 ；愛(ài)人就要鐘情。在生活中，我們要么長(zhǎng)大了，要么變老了。但我們自己可以選擇其中 一種。享受生日吧，吹滅蠟燭許個(gè)愿：“愿我們的下一個(gè)生日比這個(gè)更好！” 1.volunteer[πΡλΕν5τΙΕ(ρ)]vt.(后接不定式)自愿(做) 2.giveahand給予幫助，助一臂之力 3.biography[βαι5Χ⊥ρΕφι]n.傳記 4.capture[5κ“πτΦΕ]vt.(用照片等)留存 5.highlight[5ηαΙλαΙτ]n.最重要(或最有趣)的事件(或時(shí)刻等) 6.poreover專(zhuān)心閱讀，鉆研 7.chronological[7 κρΧνΕ5λΧδ
1 士梅專(zhuān)欄難忘的年華(doc)